Central to coaching is a profound belief: people are naturally creative, resourceful, and whole.
This mindset isn’t just a feel-good phrase—it’s foundational. In a world that often tells neurodivergent people what they aren’t, this perspective is a radical and necessary shift. And for my clients—many of whom are navigating ADHD, burnout, self-doubt, or a lifetime of being misunderstood—it may be the first time they’ve ever been seen that way. This belief shapes how I show up, how I ask questions and work to build trust, and ultimately, how I hope clients begin to see themselves.
My Mindset
Coaching isn’t therapy. It’s not consulting. And it’s definitely not rescuing.
When I hold a client as already whole—even if they feel like a total mess—I don’t fall into the trap of trying to fix, diagnose, or save them. I’m not there to hand out advice or come in with a toolbox and start rearranging their life.
Instead, I walk beside them while they access their own wisdom. Often, we start to unearth old stories—narratives that may have once served a purpose but are now just getting in the way. Things like “I’m lazy,” “I’m too much,” or “If I can’t do it perfectly, I might as well not try.” These beliefs don’t get challenged through tough love or tips and tricks. They begin to unravel when a client feels seen, heard, and respected for who they are.
I trust that every client has the capacity to make a paradigm shift to what works for them at this moment—if and when they choose to. And when they do, it sticks, because it came from them.
Foundation of Trust
True coaching can’t happen without trust—and trust can’t happen if the client feels like they’re being judged or “handled.”
When I coach from the belief that my clients are whole, it creates a safe, shame-free environment. Clients can sense when I’m not trying to fix them. That’s what allows them to open up.. They’ll share thoughts they’ve never spoken aloud, admit where they feel stuck, and start peeling back the layers of survival strategies they’ve been clinging to.
But here’s the important part: that openness only happens when it feels safe. And safety isn’t built through perfection. It’s built through presence—through a steady belief in someone’s worth, even when they can’t see it themselves.
When safety is present, self-awareness can emerge. Without it, clients may not even reveal to themselves what’s truly standing in the way. They might stay on the surface—looping in frustration, hiding behind tasks or excuses—not because they’re resistant, but because it hasn’t felt safe to go deeper.
My Clients are the Drivers
If I assume someone is broken or lacking, my questions are narrow and problem-oriented. I might fall into “What’s wrong?” or “Why can’t you just…?” territory. (And let’s be honest, ADHD folks have heard more than enough already. They don’t want to hear that in coaching.)
But when I see a client as whole, my curiosity changes shape. I’m not looking for flaws—I’m listening for what’s emerging. That might be an insight they didn’t know they had or a story they tell themselves that doesn’t quite fit their life anymore.
Sometimes, my role is simply to say, “What did you hear yourself just say?” or “What are you noticing when you say….?”
In these moments, I trust my client is the expert of their own life. I’m not the driver of their journey, and I don’t hold the map of their lives. I’m just pointing out possible “Points of Interest” along the way—those moments that could become turning points, if they see value in exploring them.
This kind of coaching invites ownership. Clients realize they have agency. They’re not waiting for someone else to give them answers—they’re starting to trust their own.
And that’s where the real growth begins.
The Power of Whole
When I coach from this place—from the belief that my clients are already whole—I stop chasing fixes and start building futures.
This approach isn’t just ethical. It’s transformational. It shifts the coaching conversation from “What’s wrong with you?” to “What’s strong in you?” From “Here’s what you should do” to “What’s calling you forward?”
Especially when working with neurodivergent individuals, this mindset is non-negotiable. My clients don’t need to be “normalized.” They need to be seen, honored, and supported as they are.
So if you’re feeling stuck, burned out, or like you’ve been misjudged one too many times—know this: you’re not broken. You’ve got what it takes.
And if you’re ready to explore what’s next, I’d be honored to walk alongside you.
Curious about what coaching could unlock for you?
Book a complimentary Discovery Session or reach out via email—I’d love to hear your story.
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